Life Experiment: Greet Yourself
Hi mama, take a second and think about how you interact with strangers. I'm talking about strangers who you squish past in the store, strangers who seat you at a restaurant, strangers who hold the door for you leaving the coffee shop. What do you do?
If you're like most people you give them a small smile, maybe a nod, and move on with your day. If you are particularly grumpy you may ignore them, or look away. Or if you’re in the best mood ever you may give them a big 'ol grin of acknowledgement.
You know what I'm guessing you never do? Get super close to them, start poking at their face, and pointing out all of their flaws. Where they have wrinkles, where they have a zit, or where they look tired. Who would do that? Who would be that cruel?
So you probably see where I’m going here. When you are walking into a restroom and you see your charming face in the mirror, how do you greet yourself? Do you smile and nod and say 'Hello'? Do you give yourself a big 'ol grin of love and appreciation? Or do you get super close and pick apart your perceived flaws? I hope you are nicer to yourself than you are to a complete stranger!
I started paying attention to this a few years ago and didn't like how critical I was to myself. Or how critical I saw other women being of themselves while they were washing their hands. I started greeting myself in the mirror as if I was any other nice person I ran into. I laugh now because when I walk into a restroom and I catch my reflection I automatically smile as if I were a stranger whose eyes I've met. It shifted my mentality completely, from one of paying attention to all my perceived flaws, to one of humor and not taking myself so seriously.
Here's the life experiment:
Every time you catch a reflection of yourself in a mirror, window, or your friend's sunglasses, smile. Greet yourself (at the bare minimum) like you would any nice person who crosses your path. Fight the urge to get in close and question or nit-pick everything. Just greet yourself with cheer, be happy you are there, and give yourself a smile that acknowledges your beautiful deeper self that surpasses all things superficial. Or if that sounds ridiculous, have fun with it. When you catch your reflection give yourself a thumbs up, or wink - something silly that loosens you up and makes you smile, about how ridiculous you are instead of picking yourself apart.
I think these days about how my kiddo watches me. Does he see that when are in front of a mirror it's an opportunity to get upset and frustrated while picking yourself apart, or an opportunity to say "hey there pretty lady, it's going to be a good day!" xo
Try it for a couple of weeks, and see what happens. Love to hear how it worked for you!